I've had something on my mind for a while now. I've been mulling it over and have wanted to do a blog post about it but couldn't quite get my thoughts out yet. I needed to think on it a bit more. Then I read this post at The Apron Revolution and it helped me figure out what I want to say. (Truthfully, she probably says it much better than I will be able to, so please click the link to read what she wrote. True and wise words.)
I find myself a bit perplexed and confused as to how things like wearing your pajamas around in public has become not only the norm...but the expected. And I saw firsthand on a forum today how if ladies dared to say that it was not proper to present one's self in that manner in public, the pajama clad side started slinging accusations of, "Judgement!!! You can't judge us!!!!" and then they just went down hill from there with all manner of foul language and discontent.
I'll not lie.
It makes me weary.
It makes me weary.
How did we get to the point that instead of valuing women like this:
Our society now values and is enamored by women like this:
Don't even try to tell me you can't see the difference.
It's as though anything dignified is looked upon with suspicion and disdain. Anyone who isn't going with whatever is the current flow is gets looked upon in the same manner. If you don't agree with it and wish to encourage others who share your views, you're looked upon as trying to "recruit" others to your way of thinking. And also apparently wishing damnation on those who feel differently.
But I will be honest and say that our world could stand a rather large dose of dignity right now. Not so long ago the majority of people wanted to live their lives in such a way that they would be seen as responsible, dignified, and mature. Now it seems that so many would rather be seen as comfortable in their pajamas in public than a mature and dignified example to the younger generation.
My husband paid me a compliment recently. He said something that would make the blood boil of most women my age. But I dearly love what he said and it made me feel wonderful. I was standing in our kitchen wearing a simple dress and a new apron that I had recently purchased. He came in, looked me over, and said with a kiss, "Don't you look matronly." He meant it as a compliment and I most certainly took it as one. It still gives me a smile when I think of it.
It seems that at some point being seen as something like "matronly" has become this taboo thing that women associate with...well, I don't really know what they associate it with but it's obvious it's something negative. I happen to hold no such reserves where that and similar words are concerned and think that the thoughts they convey are wonderful. I found in one place the word matronly described as, "maturely dignified or stately." What woman in her right mind wouldn't want to be seen as maturely dignified or stately?
I know that some must think a "matron" could only be a lady who is very elderly. But in the past, this word wasn't just reserved for the very old ~~ it was used to describe any lady who carried and presented herself as such. This photo ~ looks to be from the 1950s perhaps? ~ is even entitled by the photographer, "Young Matrons."
So, yes. I believe in being "matronly." And I believe that no harm would come but plenty of good would if women still aspired to behave as and be seen as a "matron." Pajamas in public need not apply.