Tuesday, August 12, 2008

Silly women, sinful busybodies

I Timothy 5:13
And withal they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house; and not only idle, but tattlers also and busybodies, speaking things which they ought not.
"...wandering about from house to house..." I think perhaps many women in our time do not think about this verse deeply enough. I know of many ladies who would immediately say, "Oh I'm home all the time! I homeschool, have the littles to care for and gas is so expensive there is no way I could wander from house to house being a busybody!" Well, let's take this verse and really apply it to our lives. Granted, I'm sure there are some women out there who run around from one place to the other neglecting their duties. But, there is another way to be a busybody without ever leaving our house that brings us to the same end.
I am thankful for the internet. I am thankful for the blogs of other Christian women. They have helped me, uplifted me and I have formed some real friendships from them. They can be a source of needed information, inspiration, and exhortation. It is truly wonderful to have this resource literally at our fingertips.
But it can also be a very large stumbling block. Wife & mother who says she rarely leaves the house ~ how much time do you spend "wandering from house to house" via the internet? How much time to you devote to figuring out which mommy blogger doesn't like another? Following comments on one blog to another to yet another until.....your day is done. Your time is gone.
I think we have all been guilty.
II Thessalonians 3:11,12
For we hear that there are some which walk among you disorderly, working not at all, but are busybodies. Now them that are such we command and exhort by our Lord Jesus Christ, that with quietness they work, and eat their own bread.
Have you ever notice that so many of the commandments in the Bible that are given to women revolve around the concepts of quietness (being sober, discreet) and daily work? Ladies, there is a real reason for that!
If we are doing the things we should *and* if we are behaving as we should, there will be no time for busybody activities! No time at all! Whether you are a wife and mother of ten children or a wife with no children at all, if you are properly taking care of the things going on under your roof, you will not have time for the things of foolish women. If you ever do get to the point that every domestic chore in the house is done, then there is time you need to spend in the Word, there is a world full of uplifting and educational books to read, there are needle arts to learn, projects to participate in from your church, the list could go on and on.
But what if you say ~ I *am* accomplishing my work. No one here is neglected. My house is presentable and the meals are good and hot. What's the problem if I'm working with my ear to my phone or spending every spare minute checking out the blogs and message boards?
Matthew 12:36,37
But I say unto you, That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment. For by thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned.
Ecclesiastes 12:14
For God shall bring every work into judgment, with every secret thing, whether it be good, or whether it be evil.
Titus 2:4,5
That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
Granted, if you are accomplishing all of your work on a given day that is a good thing. But, if you are doing it while simultaneously gossiping on the phone or in a pattern of ~ one chore, go read a blog, one chore, go to a message board, one chore, go read more blogs ~ are you really doing it with the quiet and sober spirit that you were commanded by the Lord to have?
Perhaps you spend time reading back and forth between "blog wars" but you never post, never say a word yourself. But think about your time! You laying the time that God gave you to accomplish the duties of your day on the alter of gossip!
Let's face it ladies, a busybody is not going to make a very good housekeeper. How could she be? It takes time (which is wasted by a busybody spirit), creativity (which requires time & thought), organizational skills (which are not being cultivated while gossiping and running about), and a devoted spirit (not something possessed by a silly, busybody woman.) Our husbands deserve wives that are devoted to the home and all it entails ~ from caring for the children to cooking to decorating to please him to cleaning out the car.
Frankly, if an idle, busybody wife/mom were to go out into the workforce with that same lackadaisical attitude, she would be fired!!
Let's all make the effort to remember not only what the Lord wants us to do, but *how* He wants us to do it. ~ With a quiet, sober spirit that is dedicated to the task at hand. Perhaps we would all do well (myself included) to put a sticky note at the top of our monitors that says ~ Be quiet and mind your own business.~


Anonymous said...

Today's post is a good reminder! I must say that I've wasted too much precious time following "blog wars". The Lord put it in my heart that it is like eavesdropping on an arguement. It's none of my business!

Domestically Inclined said...

Thank you for this post. You obvisouly did some studying to reveal God's heart in the matter.
It is a good reminder to us all to not be "silly women" that the enemy can use to do his bidding!

Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.
2Timothy 2:15

Blessings to you!

~~Deby said...

You know...I am officially on a blogging break of sorts..for many reasons...I think though, we were NEVER intended to know all we do about people like we do in blogland...I felt myself thinking of BLOG friends more than people in my real life and church..this is a great post...

HOPE said...

Thank you for such a thought provoking post...so true and needed.

I'm glad Deby put a link to this on her blog...

as with the "few" bloggers I know..we all desire to encourage..but must also limit that time and let the LORD work in each life as HE wills...including our own.

Thank you for sharing this.


Lady-in-the-Making said...

I, too, found this post from Deby's blog.

This is all too true. I was very convicted by this and will be re-thinking my 'blog life' in light of your thought-provoking post.

Thank you.

Cherish the Home said...

Excellent post! This is a topic that is constantly on my heart and mind.

And you know the hard part with the Internet ie: blogs, message boards etc... is even when you're not actually *on* the computer you're thinking about it. The mental-duality (or as the Bible calls it the double-mindedness) is the part of blogging that I find so difficult to control. And as Deby said, sometimes I think we know *too much* about everyone. And how many real life friends do we visit on a daily basis? In Blogland that's exactly what we're doing. And when you think about how many different blogs most of us read, well, the information becomes quite staggering. I call this information overload. Most women (myself included) have a tendency towards nosiness and blogging can easily feed this tendency.

Well, I'll stop commenting before it turns into a novel. (o;


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Mrs. June Fuentes said...

This is a great post---would love to share this on my blog. I also like the title of your blog!

Many blessings...

HOPE said...

Thank you Mrs. V for leaving a comment and letting me know you stopped by. Such a joy to meet you!

Blessings to you..

Anonymous said...

God is so good! Talk about timely for me! I had been convicted the past few days that I had been a voyeur (I didn't really post much) in a "blog war" of sorts. I had checked the blog in question multiple times per day and then visited two or three anti-blog in questions again multiple times per day. Instead of feeling good and positive, they just made me feel depressed and well, almost dirty. After reading this post (I had never read your blog, but linked her via another blog I occasionally read), I have cleaned up my favorites and purged those blogs.

My focus now is on the Lord first of all. Then if I read blogs, they will be positive, uplifting ones that edify.

Thanks so much!


Girly said...

I love the spirit of this post. The sad fact with the concept of the anti-blog is that it serves to do no good. It is so easy to get too busy blogging and miss out on our real lives at home. Thanks for one of the best posts I've read on this in a long time.

Jodi said...

wonderful post..amen!
Every Blessing, Jodi