Monday, March 10, 2008
Teachers of good things
Titus 2: 1-5
But speak thou the things which become sound doctrine:
That the aged men be sober grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience.
The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, *teachers of good things;*
That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,
To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
"teachers of good things"
It struck me today while reading this passage that the small part of the sentence in verse 3 could, in reality, sum up the rest of the passage directed toward ladies. When one thinks on it, those four little words are heavy with meaning and responsibility. Really, the entirety of our lives are to be such that we are teachers of good things. Our homes, our attitudes, our habits, our appearance, the ~very essence of who we are and how we live~ should to those close to us and to the casual observer alike teach good things.
Ladies, the girls and young women emerging into adulthood need us more now than ever before! I know there is nothing new under the sun (Eccl. 1:9) but the enemy has had women and the home targeted these past 2-3 generations in earnest. If we are to become a people that once again holds the home up as the Lord would have us to, we must take the responsibilities given to us in Titus 2 to heart.
Just as women have been taught by the secular world that they are to find their fulfilment outside of the home, we must wholeheartedly teach that they can/will find their fulfilment within the home and family that God has blessed them with! Some young ladies are not raised by mothers who will teach them these things. If they then cannot look to Christian women to learn these lessons then whom, may I ask, is going to teach them?
For some women certain things come naturally. I daresay the to the majority of women mothering is one of those things. To others, household chores and cleaning is their specialty and it comes as easily as breathing. But these things do not simply come to some young ladies and all things certainly do not come easily to anyone. We all have areas we struggle with. This is why it is so important that the skills of homemaking, mothering and Godly council are taught to girls and most especially to young wives.
I have heard so many times that we are to teach and learn these things by example. And yes, that is so true. But honestly, in our time women cannot learn by example as effectively as in times past. Let me explain what I mean. There was once a time when most families lived either with each other or within close proximity to each other. Extended family was all around and a part of everyday life. If a young wife wanted to see what a Godly marriage and home looked like as an example to model her own after, she needed only to look across the room or next door. She could learn by example every day of her life! However, in our time, a lot of families live very far apart and our neighbors are strangers. How then is a young bride to learn by example only? See my point?
Of course, the ministry certainly should begin in our homes with our own daughters. But there will also be times when we have the opportunity (...duty?) to reach out to others! Whether this is through your church, your neighborhood or even the Internet matters not. What matters is that when given that opportunity to reach out we recognize it for what it is and seize the teachable moment!
There are so many things one can give a young lady to add to her arsenal of knowledge. Lessons on Biblical womanhood can include things such as; making time for daily Bible study, teaching children Bible lessons, time management, menu planning, cleaning & organizational methods, cooking, pantry stocking, gardening, sewing, needlepoint, book suggestions, budgeting, the list could go on and on.
Every teachable moment does not have to be a formal 'sit down while I impart my wisdom' event. There are many ways to make things fun. One of my favorite things for a new bride is a Pantry Shower. It's like a wedding shower but (in my opinion) much more practical. Everyone invited brings a pantry staple item (or more - however many they want to bring!) Since these things are generally not expensive, most people don't mind getting multiple items. These can include spices, flours, dry goods - any and all pantry staples. In addition to these, everyone also submits ahead of time some of their favorite recipes. Alot of people will choose to purchase the pantry items needed for the recipes they are giving. The hostess will collect all the recipes and put them in a book for the bride. By the time the shower is over she will have a cookbook full of recipes with a pantry full of everything she needs to make them!
That is just one example of how to impart some homekeeping skills in a fun manner. But however you decide to do it - please, please do it as the future of our homes depends on the next generation of women learning these skills! We must impart the joy of the quiet pleasures of home. We must be "teachers of good things."
May God bless you all as you bless your households.